Andrew's Debut Memoir, COMING SOON!


Defining Brave:

A young man’s journey through grief and romance leads him to resiliently

embrace who he is.




When unexpected death tore through the fabric of my family—in my senior year of college—I unravelled. Confronted by my deep desire to grieve five deaths—instead—I manufactured connections with men in every season, convinced each new relationship was my answer to healing. My mission to find a companion whom I could love, fix, crave, and boast about quickly became an addiction I used to hide from myself, my loss, and even my childhood abuse that sex would trigger.


My world filled with more bravery and truth than I had fathomed, the moment I finally defined my existence myself—instead of through the eyes of my mother, my queerness, abuse, my string of lovers, and crushing grief.


In my memoir, I name each chapter and lover by the quality or lesson I learned during the time I shared with him.  


We all have our journeys, but Andrew's self-awareness is so impressive, it makes the book special. The message is powerful and so transferable...readers will fall in love with Andrew!
-Sheron Fruehauf
I love the way he writes.
The imagery is so vivid and strong!
-Sherilyn Lawson
Roanoke, VA
These words matter. Defining Brave will get people through hardships, you will triumph with Andrew—like I did.
-Shaun Nerney
Red Bank, NJ 
His writing is a window that allowed the reader to see him
—a privilege. 
-Reed Muller
I hear his voice very clearly in this,which is not easy to do.
-Doug Lockwood 
Jamaica Plain, MA
Life Changing. Relatable. While our grief may differ from one another, the reality is we all share our bodies natural responses to trauma and grief. This book could not have landed into my hands at a better time!
-Zac Meyer 
Gresham, OR
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I was on the radio, Mom!

Listen to my full interview on Joy 94.9 all the way in AUSTRALIA! 

God bless a zoom call! I got to swing through The Drive Thru w/ John-O @ Joy 94.9  radio in Melbourne, Australia and talk all things Defining Brave and my story with one of my dear friends! Check it out here! (my interview starts at 20:40!) 


My Road To Publishing

My YouTube Series! 

Click here to watch the first two episodes and learn more—directly from me—about my story and why I decided to write a book! 

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It's Okay Not to be Okay!

Watch my full interview/ Q & A with Sam Barlow High School students 

I had the pleasure of kicking off this amazing series of interviews with high school students back in my hometown in Oregon. Covid-19 has rattled all of our lives and this was an amazing opportunity to share my own truth with these teens who are also deeply struggling.